When Your Kids Don't Want To Go To Church
Updated: Jun 24, 2018
We love that our church is full of families in all shapes and sizes – In particular, families with little ones. It’s not always easy to get your kids to church on Sunday, and it can be quite difficult getting them into their kids’ service when you have a stage-5 clinger. We’ve all been there.
Here are some tips to help you get your kids excited for church from some super moms: Ryam Teran and Robyn Koontz! They’re both moms of four kids, and they actively serve alongside their husbands as service pastors at Hillsong LA!
Here’s some thoughts from Robyn!
1. Be Consistent.
Going to church is what we do on Sunday. Our kids know that. My 5 year old went through a REALLY long phase where he would exclaim dramatically, “NOT CHUUUURCH.” We went anyway. Ha.
2. Make Time for Transitions.
Leave time to help your stage-5 clinger transition. Rather than running in frantic and late, peeling my child off my chest, and then handing them to the kids’ team kicking and screaming all dramatic, I leave margin for tougher transitions. I find if I go into the class with my stage-5 clinger and sit with him while he plays, introducing him to a few kids and teachers and maybe offering him his favorite snack bar, 9 out of 10 times he’ll be a happy camper when I say “goodbye”, heading into service before it starts.
3. Say Goodbye.
Speaking of goodbyes, ALWAYS say “goodbye”. This applies to more than church. My mom always told me: Don’t sneak out secretly. Say “goodbye”. Even if it’s hard. Even if they’re upset. And tell them you’ll be back soon. It builds trust and will pay off in the long run.
4. Remember the gain.
Getting to church with all the kids dressed might be worth a trophy in itself (although I have arrived only to find that one child wasn’t wearing shoes… stop judging me right now)… but of all things we can do for our kids, giving them the opportunity to meet Jesus is THE BEST thing. More than getting homework done or all amazing extra curricular activities COMBINED. Meeting Jesus and learning what it means to be planted in His House outweighs everything else.
You’re an incredible parent and your kiddos are blessed to have you. You’ve got this!
Post originally written by Ryan Terem